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Seven more weeks…….

40th  balloon

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This hit me the other day while replying to someone on Twitter. I only have seven weeks left in my 30’s. Wow.

The old me would be really sweating right now thinking about all of the things I HAVEN’T done yet that were in my plan. Bigger house, better car, more retirement savings, less debt, more saved for the kids’ college funds, a more prestigious career, having started something very impactful, etc. Don’t get me wrong. Some of these are things we have been working on and have made significant progress from a few years ago. But, the new me is okay with where I am now and where I am heading. And honestly, some of those things don’t matter at all to me anymore.

Have I done many of the things I would have liked to do before my 40th birthday? Yes!

Have I done anywhere near what I thought I would have done by this upcoming bithday? No.

But that’s the beauty of where I am in my life right now. My faith is stronger than it’s ever been. I have learned that God sees me in a way that nobody else does. And I am learning to see myself how He does. It’s incredible what a difference that makes in your priorities, what’s most important, and how you live your life.

I’m also learning to see life differently, which means I am no longer walking in a straight line trying to get from Point A to Point B, where I used to think I should go. There’s an entirely different dimension that I never anticipated or thought of, and it is so freeing to live in it.

The one thing I have made significant progress on is in getting healthier. I started this process in June and wrote about it here. I decided that getting healthier was something I was going to focus on during the last half of the last year in my 30’s.

That was my main goal. To eat healthier, workout regularly and have more energy. Did I want to lose weight? Absolutely! But I was not focused on the number. I had to develop a healthier lifestyle. The direction I was continuing to head was bad for me both physically and mentally.

I am very excited to say that I have made significant progress. I am down more than two sizes, workout 3-5 times per week, and eat  much healthier. I feel great!  I am so thankful for the amazing support system I have with my husband, friends, workout buddies, and many others who have encouraged me along the way. I’ll post more about this before the big day in a few weeks.

And for now, I will be enjoying the next seven weeks by continuing to work on being healthier, as well as enjoying the holidays with family and friends. I am no longer afraid of the big 4-0!!


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What does the word community mean to you?

 This word keeps coming to me over and over again. I think it’s because I have found it again. I think I lost it for a long time.

 Maybe in the past you used the word “group” or “club” when you thought of something you belonged to. We are so familiar with them when we are young. We go to school together, we play sports, get involved in extra curricular activities, and strive to fit in somewhere. What we longed for was to do life together, in a community.

 Looking back, I realize how being involved in these communities helped to keep me accountable, and I was living life with these people on a regular basis.  I could not miss practice or a performance without someone wanting to know where I was. I was required to keep moving forward.

 Somewhere along the lines, though, we lose the importance of this concept. Part of it is getting out on our own and trying to make our own life. Another part of it is our mobile, relocating society. Many of us no longer stay in our hometowns and start a life there. We move to a new location. We have a hard time meeting our neighbors because we are too busy. We detach ourselves from people because it requires work to develop new relationships and communities. Everybody seems to have their own agenda, and not be as concerned about others. And quite honestly, life is hard! Starting a career, being in the workforce, getting married, having kids – these are all things that help us keep a selfish perspective.

 I read a great book called ‘Refrigerator Rights’  about how so few people feel close enough with their friends and neighbors to go in and help themselves to something in their fridge without asking. This is due to so many reasons, and I have been at the point where I didn’t feel like I had any friends or neighbors that could do that. It was a very lonely time.

 However, this idea is starting to show just how effective it can be in my life. Why? Because it makes you accountable, it makes you feel good, and you feel supported. There is something unbelievably comforting in knowing that there are people you can call when you need them, or who are praying for you regularly. There is nothing like having a goup of people who are pushing you to be better, whether it’s regarding your health, spirituality, fitness, work, or any other area of your life. You can drop your kids off when needed, you can offer to take someone else’s kids for them, and you can be there for them when they need you. You can get together regularly and build relationships with your families.

 I love that we are building these relationships with neighbors and people from our church community, as well as other friends in our lives. It makes an amazing difference in your outlook and your life.

What are your thoughts regarding community? How has this impacted your life?

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