Category Archives: Belief

Different paths

I have learned to appreciate the fact that everyone is in a different stage in their faith walk. I know this because my husband and I are in very different stages, and took completely different paths to get where we are. I also have friends in varying stages as well, from no faith at all to completely unwavering faith.

I used to believe that there was a “destination” that people worked towards. That’s what I was taught. I know now that isn’t true. Everyone’s faith walk looks different. There is no destination. It’s a continual journey. Just when we think that things are going great and we are right where God wants us, that can change in an instant.

Road Sign

Road Sign (Photo credit: freefotouk)

I have learned that it is silly to want someone to be where you are spiritually. Do I want them to experience a relationship with God? Absolutely! But what I go through looks different than what the person next to me will go through. The amount of work it takes to change my heart may be completely different than how someone else is impacted.I’ve also realized that God speaks to people differently. Sometimes it’s through music or nature or poetry, and sometimes it’s in a conversation with a friend. For me to expect someone else to hear or see things the same way that I do is pretty close minded.

One of the things that my pastor continually challenges us to do is to take one more step forward in our journey. Whatever it is. It looks different for everyone. But, if you are moving forward, and challenging yourself to grow closer to God, you will be amazed at where this journey will take you.

Have you experienced this? I’d love to hear from you.

7 Comments

Filed under Belief, Faith

Be Quiet and Back Off

“Be quiet and back off. You are getting in my way.”

Not exactly something I expected to hear from God. Now, I know what you’re thinking. That is crazy. Did you really hear it from God?

Yes, I did. I am learning to listen more closely when He speaks to me. This is not something I have always experienced, believe me! And it is something that is somewhat scary at first. Sometimes it is a gentle simple voice. And sometimes it is very clear. Like this time.

What was he talking to me about? My frustrations and impatience when it came to my husband’s faith walk. I had just gone through an incredible transformation and truly learning to find my own solid faith for the first time in a very long time. I was excited! I wanted everything to be perfect. (Why do we always think that way?) I wanted him to feel what I was feeling and to experience it together.

Is that a bad thing to want? I don’t think so. However, when I heard those words I realized something extremely important. His faith walk is different than mine. Everyone’s is. What speaks to me isn’t going to speak to him. What excites me isn’t going to excite him. Constantly nagging him or expecting him to immediately be where I was, was unfair.

So what did I do? The only thing you can do when you clearly hear an instruction from God.

I shut up.

I backed off.

I got out of the way.

I stopped trying to control something I had no control over.

Did I stop praying for him? Absolutely not.

Did I tell him that God said this to me? No. (Not at that moment. More on this later!)

Did I stop trying to control everything and trust God? Yes.

Which makes me wonder. Who was the lesson for in the first place?

My husband or me?

So my advice to anyone who is frustrated with a spouse or partner or child and their faith walk is to BACK OFF. Be a quiet example of what it means to have a relationship with God. But don’t try to fix them or expect their experience to be like yours. In most cases, that is the worst possible thing you could do.

I’d love to hear something that you’ve clearly heard God say to you, and what you did about it.

8 Comments

Filed under Authenticity, Belief, Encouragement, Faith, Life lessons, Marriage

How do you feel it?

How do you feel God’s love? I often feel it most during church. Sometimes, I can’t help crying. Other times, I am totally overwhelmed by it. I feel completely thankful and totally secure in the arms of God. It is an awesome feeling.

I didn’t always feel like this in church. In fact, for many years, I felt extreme conflict. I felt the tug at my heart from God, but I continually pushed back. I fought it. Over and over again. I couldn’t wrap my arms (or mind) around the fact that He loves me just as I am. Not how I think I should be or how others think I should be. He loves me. Period.

I will never forget the first time I heard Taylor Phelan sing the song “How He Loves”. I had never heard it before. I literally cried like a baby as he sang it. Because I finally understood it. He really does love me that much. It didn’t hurt that Taylor has an absolutely amazing voice, either!

I have realized that music is a very big way that God speaks to me. It is partly because I am a musician, but also partly because the words and the music together are something that resonate deeply with me. That’s why I can sometimes cry continuously through the worship portion of the service. It’s also why I have not yet gotten involved in our worship team. I am fearful that I would never be able to control my emotions!!

I have also realized that God speaks to me in many different ways. I just need to slow down long enough to pay attention. He surrounds me with His love continuously throughout the day, and not just in church. However, I do think that there is always something special about gathering with so many other believers and worshiping together. The intensity seems stronger sometimes.

I also feel so close to God on an airplane. Very strange, I know. There’s just something about seeing the earth from the air and taking in its beauty that draws me in and makes me incredibly grateful.

So how does God speak to you?

Through art?

Through nature?

Through poetry?

Through words?

I would love to hear from you.

2 Comments

Filed under Beauty, Belief

Leaving a Legacy – Reposted from Oct. 5, 2011

“Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.”   Steve Jobs

Tonight we learned that Steve Jobs passed away. I’ll admit it. I’m not an Apple freak. I have many friends who are. I do have multiple Apple products and I really like them, but I am not one who has to have the newest Apple product the minute it comes out. However, you can’t deny the amazing impact that Steve had on technology and how we have access to things we never knew we needed. He was truly a visionary and an amazing creator. His ideas and innovations changed our world.

Reflecting on all of the news coverage, and stopping to realize how he has truly impacted all of us, even if we have competitors’ products, is pretty amazing.

He was a dreamer.

He was a leader.

 He created things that there was no immediate need for, and somehow created a need for them.

He was able to push forward when people told him his ideas would never work.

He wanted to change the world. And he did.

I can’t help but wonder how many people told him he would never invent the things he dreamed about. That he would never be able to make things better. That it just couldn’t be done. I’m sure there were many. But he didn’t listen. He believed in his dreams. He knew that they were wrong.

How many of us have dreams of making the world a better place?

How many of us want to make a difference?

How many of us are actually taking steps to make it happen?

Or are we letting the craziness of life get in our way?

Are we listening to the many critics who say our dreams can never happen because they are too afraid to believe in their own dream?

Are we listening to the own voices in our head that tell us we can’t?

The truth is that we can always take one step forward. We CAN make an impact. We can start in our family. Then our neighborhood, and our workplace, and our community. And on and on and on.

Don’t stop pressing toward your dream. Take that next step. Don’t let life pass you by. Do it today. Because none of us know if we will see tomorrow. And if we’re crazy enough to believe it, we can change the world.

1 Comment

Filed under Belief, Dreams, Persistence

Leaving a Legacy

“Because the people who are crazy enough
 to think they can change the world,
 are the ones who do.”
 Steve Jobs

Tonight we learned that Steve Jobs passed away. I’ll admit it. I’m not an Apple freak. I have many friends who are. I do have multiple Apple products and I really like them, but I am not one who has to have the newest Apple product the minute it comes out.  However, you can’t deny the amazing impact that Steve had on technology and how we have access to things we never knew we needed. He was truly a visionary and an amazing creator. His ideas and innovations changed our world.

Reflecting on all of the news coverage, and stopping to realize how he has truly impacted all of us, even if we have competitors’ products, is pretty amazing.

He was a dreamer.

He was a leader.

He created things that there was no immediate need for, and somehow created a need for them.

He was able to push forward when people told him his ideas would never work.

He wanted to change the world. And he did.

I can’t help but wonder how many people told him he would never invent the things he dreamed about. That he would never be able to make things better. That it just couldn’t be done. I’m sure there were many. But he didn’t listen. He believed in his dreams. He knew that they were wrong.

How many of us have dreams of making the world a better place?

How many of us want to make a difference?

How many of us are actually taking steps to make it happen?

Or are we letting the craziness of life get in our way?

Are we listening to the many critics who say our dreams can never happen because they are too afraid to believe in their own dream?

Are we listening to the own voices in our head that tell us we can’t?

The truth is that we can always take one step forward. We CAN make an impact. We can start in our family. Then our neighborhood, and our workplace, and our community. And on and on and on.

Don’t stop pressing toward your dream. Take that next step. Don’t let life pass you by. Do it today. Because none of us know if we will see tomorrow. And if we’re crazy enough to believe it, we can change the world.








Leave a comment

Filed under Belief, Dreams, Persistence