Feeling or choice?

“Love is not a feeling, it’s a choice.”

 Emerson Eggerichs

I used to think love was a feeling. It was something you fell into. It just happened to you.

And I think initially it can be, when you start to date and explore relationships. But,when you are young, you often don’t really understand what it takes to love someone.

We think we know. We think that everything will be great. We think we will love the person no matter what.

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But we have NO idea what life will throw at us. We don’t know that life itself will be hard.

That some days, we won’t feel like we love our spouse anymore.

That some days, it will take everything we have to just like them and not be completely irritated.

But, these are all choices.

While we don’t have a choice about how others treat us, we do have a choice about how we live. And our attitude.

We can choose to love someone, no matter what.

We can choose to take another step forward in our relationship.

We can choose to work through our problems, instead of taking the easy way out.

Everything in life is a choice.

How you choose makes all the difference in the world.

Do you think love is a choice?



Filed under Love, Marriage

4 responses to “Feeling or choice?

  1. Great points Tammy. As a man of faith, my bible tells me what love is. And nowhere in it does it say it’s butterflies, feelings, sweaty palms…it says love is kind, does not hurt, is patient, does not hold a grudge…all choices. Thanks for sharing!

  2. Definitely. I told my husband this when we met and then he mentioned his Mom told him the exact same thing. His parents have never been divorced and love each other well. My parents also have never seperated and love each other.

  3. Tiffany

    Sometimes this is what we need to hear! Satan tries to DISTRACT us when our spouse is being irritating, make us DOUBT our spouses love for us when they aren’t showing us attention, and DISCOURAGE us from trying because it is work! But we need to keep our mind focused and make a choice to look at the positives in our relationship and spouse and focus on what is good:) Thanks Tammy!

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