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My husband and I just recently celebrated our 14th wedding anniversary. We started dating over 21 years ago!

Many people have congratulated us on staying together this long. I realize that in today’s world, staying married is actually a big accomplishment to some. I have to say that sometimes that still surprises me.

My parents were married for 31 years before my Dad passed away in his early 50’s. My in-laws have been married for 44 years. We have had good examples of people staying married all around us. And, for us, there just hasn’t been any other option.

Does that mean that it is easy? No.

Does that mean that we have never had major struggles? No.

Does that mean that sometimes we don’t want to strangle each other? No.

Does that mean that having kids was picture perfect and made everything great? No.

Does that mean that we haven’t had challenges where I actually considered divorce an option? No.

Does that mean that we love each other no matter what? Yes.

In the next few posts, I am planning to dive deeper into marriage. I will be writing about what we’ve learned over the last few years, as we have had to work hard to rediscover why our marriage is important, and help reshape it into what we wanted it to be.

It has been incredibly difficult at times, but exciting and rewarding.  My hope is that you will find something in these posts that encourages you and helps you. If not, I know that writing will help me continue to be intentional about applying these things in my own marriage. Because sometimes I need to be reminded of it as well.



Filed under Marriage

5 responses to “Marriage

  1. Great post, Tammy. I’m looking forward to reading more.

  2. Tracy S

    It is hard work!! I don’t think people realize! So congrats….to the ups and downs!!

  3. Marriage is HARD. People who think otherwise are niave. Unfortunately too often today people just walk away when it gets hard or they fall out of love. Really???? You think I’ve never fallen out of love with my husband? You just have to work hard to rediscover that love.

  4. Hi there,
    I was linked to your blog from a post by Jon Acuff, and have enjoyed all of your posts (instant fan). As a single guy, reading your posts on marriage has been an encouragemt to me, as I’m beginning to ask similar questions and ideas with young marrieds I know. I look forward to more of your writing, thanks for your openness.

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